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Learning to Rest with it All

“Let go of what has passed. Let go of what may come. Let go of what is happening now. Don’t try to figure anything out. Don’t try to make anything happen. Relax, right now, and rest” Tilopa

Category: self love

Hello again Anxiety

Awoke with disturbed feelings amid a vivid dream about C. The theme was me trying to get love and him … More

anxiety, childhood damage, fear, guilt, letting go, self compassion, self soothing, shame, suffering, thoughts, worry

‘Oh hello little toes, hello legs’

It was only towards the end of the shower that I realised I hadn’t been really there for the experience. … More

being present, self care, self love, thoughts, trusting life

Conversing with Fear

Feeling a bit uptight this morning. Hmmm. Curious about what’s happening. ‘Hello again fear, how it’s going. Anything you want … More

anxiety, fear, feeling safe, letting go, self care, self compassion, self soothing, trusting life, worry

Taking risks, trusting…

The dissolution of individual self, as that happens I am more free to be really myself. Free of fear running … More

being present, building resilience, fear, letting go, old friends and family, self compassion, trusting life

Moments of Grace

The moments I savour and appreciate. I get up at 8am each morning after a cup of tea and an … More

feeling safe, gratitude, peace, refuge, self compassion, self soothing, trusting life, wellbeing, worry

Less Afraid of Feelings

Same again. This is how the tools are learned. After noticing a slight unease inside, I went down out of … More

feeling safe, letting go, mindfulness, self care, self love, self soothing, trusting life, wellbeing

‘I love you, I’m here for you, you are valued…’

Grateful for this moment. It is peaceful, nothing awful is happening in close proximity, it’s warm enough, and there’s a … More

anxiety, Appreciation, building resilience, fear, painful times, self love, self soothing, worry

Feeling Safe

In bed as I awoke at 4am I said to myself gently I’m here for you I care about you … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, surrender experiment, trusting life

Reconnecting – List

The changes, leaps and new realisations require time and space to settle in. So I’m just having a simple little … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, dzogchen, mindfulness, nature walks, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, thoughts, trusting life

Luxury Waking Up

The experience of awaking this morning was delightful. As soon as I realised I was awake I started saying a … More

building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life, worry

Making Life a bit more Fun

Each day starts with noticing that I’m waking from sleep. Immediately some words of love and support come into my … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

Encounter with Resistance

Thrilled to be noticing how integrated my self talk has become recently. There is barely anything other than positive affirmative … More

being present, feeling safe, gratitude, habits, letting go, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self sabotage, self soothing, surrender experiment, upper limit problem

The Magic of Self Love ❤️

Each morning in the early hours when I stir from sleep I say some of the phrases from my list. … More

being present, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

Back to Love

Tired this morning, 4 hours sleep after staying up exceedingly late into the night watching series 5 of the Handmaiden’s … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, letting go, love, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life

Surrendering

It’s pouring right now, windy and dark outside. Leaves flying off the trees. Inside it’s still and warm and cosy … More

being present, building resilience, feeling safe, letting go, self compassion, self love, stillness, surrender experiment, trusting life

Imagination and Suffering

A visitation from emotional pain. Goodness gracious, what a level of suffering I went into yesterday. Succumbed to worries about … More

anxiety, fear, letting go, self compassion, self soothing, stress, worry

The Smooth and the Hard times

It was a pretty serious session with the first client in the morning, with death as a theme. Of her … More

mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life, worry

Updated Positive Self Talk list

I love you I respect you I care about you I want the best for you I appreciate you I … More

feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, inner peace, peace, relaxing, self compassion, self love, silence, trusting life

No Complaints

The leaves are falling at quite a pace now, and darkness closes in as winter approaches. I make the house … More

building resilience, love, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment

Love Bombs

I’ve been dropping these love bombs on my beleaguered conditioned psyche recently. Think there’s quite a lot of inner adjustments … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

You are held, you are cared for, you are loved

Out into the Sunday morning sunshine, a slow amble along the swollen river to the now rather muddy edge of … More

beauty of nature, building resilience, dzogchen, feeling safe, freedom, letting go, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life

I love, I respect and I like Myself

Breakfast in the park and walk with a friend in the morning, then a deeply restful afternoon yesterday. After that … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, childhood damage, feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, inner peace, letting go, Michael Singer, mindfulness, peace, Recovery, refuge, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success, surrender experiment, trusting life

Thank you Body, thank you Shower…

I look down at my body standing there and I thank it for working so well. Then I thank the … More

Appreciation, being present, feeling safe, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

You are Loved, You are cherished, I’m here for You

Another long sleep and bobbing in and out of sleep from the early hours. And again I went through the … More

being present, building resilience, covid, feeling safe, love, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, stress, surrender experiment

I love you, I admire you, I thank you….

Whenever I surfaced from sleep in the early hours, I would say, “I love you Susan”, and then onto several … More

Appreciation, being present, feeling safe, gratitude, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, thanks, trusting life

Learning to Rest in Awareness

Being awake in bed and just being for a while. Not doing anything. Not picking up the iPad. No rush … More

anxiety, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, mindfulness, self compassion, self soothing, surrender experiment, thoughts, worry

Hello again Sadness and Anxiety

How unpredictable life can be ! We never know what life will present us with, or where the next challenge … More

addiction, honesty, pain, self sabotage, stress, worry

Therapy Session

Light rain bringing such wonderful smells. It was lovely to walk in the fields and woods in the rain yesterday, … More

anger, childhood damage, compassion, Recovery, self care, suffering

Privileged Abandonment

I was on a course all day yesterday about the damage done to children who are sent to boarding school. … More

attachment, childhood damage, Recovery, self care, separation, success

Choosing to Let Life go Well

I was lying in bed this morning, no need to get up, no need to do anything other than enjoy … More

Appreciation, asking for help, being present, childhood damage, fear of success, flourishing, money fears, self compassion, self love, self soothing, thriving, trusting life, upper limit problem

Stealing Peace

At times I feel as though I’m ‘stealing’ moments of peace. I don’t trust it fully. It’s like a passing … More

being present, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, living abundantly, love, Recovery, self care, self love, self soothing, success, worry

A Different Today

Every day is so very different. It’s almost like a brand new life starting all over. “How fabulous, happy and … More

fear of happiness, fear of success, feeling safe, gratitude, self care, self love, trusting life, upper limit problem

A Perfect Day

Sunshine and warmth and my morning non meditation meditations of listening to the Buddhist nun Samaneri Jayasara reading the deepest … More

Appreciation, exercise, gratitude, physical movement, self compassion, self love

Letting go of Anxiety

By feeling it. Fully. And relaxing with it. The fear is that if we allow uncomfortable feelings to be felt, … More

acceptance, anxiety, being present, dzogchen, fear, feeling safe, love, Recovery, relaxing, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, worry

Wave of Fear

One arrived this morning. ‘Shouldn’t you be worried about something, you might be forgetting something really important?” A thought suggested. … More

anxiety, building resilience, fear, feeling safe, letting go, love, mindfulness, relaxing, self care, self compassion, self soothing, shame, wellbeing

What am I Grateful for about Myself

What am I grateful for about myself? I’m grateful for my appreciation of beauty, my softness, empathy, intelligence, kindness. I … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, inner peace, love, mindfulness, Recovery, self compassion, self love, success, thanks, thriving, trusting life, wellbeing

Savouring

I’m savouring my positive happy experiences more and more these days as I realise the huge importance of learning to … More

being present, compassion, freedom, gratitude, nature, nature walks, self compassion, self soothing, stillness, thanks, thriving, wellbeing

Short Wise Quote – Gay Hendricks

“I had been resisting reality all my life—resisting facing it, resisting accepting it, resisting feeling it. Whenever I would have … More

Appreciation, being present, fear of success, feeling safe, flourishing, freedom, inner peace, letting go, love, mindfulness, Recovery, relaxing, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success, suffering, trusting life

Thoughts Suggest what we should be Feeling

Thoughts come in continuously giving me suggestions of what I should be feeling. A thought can often be a suggestion … More

Appreciation, dzogchen, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, love, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, refuge, relaxing, self care, self love, self soothing, stillness, suffering, thoughts, trusting life, wellbeing

Unwell yet Happy

More useful adversity. I have been a little unwell this week with a sore throat, chest infection and cough. I … More

Appreciation, being present, gratitude, here and now, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, trusting life

Loving Ourselves – a reframing

We don’t have to learn how to love ourselves. We already love ourselves. All we have to do is to … More

being present, building resilience, childhood damage, flourishing, living abundantly, mindfulness, mindulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success

We got This!

I’m feeling optimistic that many more of us are finding the remarkably simple formula for expanding our awareness and increasing … More

anxiety, Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

“Shouldn’t I be Doing Something Else?“

“Something more important, more urgent”. This is a voice that comes to me quite regularly. And I answer it with … More

anxiety, building resilience, feeling safe, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, refuge, resistance, self care, self compassion, self soothing, suffering, thoughts, worry

Emotions – They are Temporary

Quick one to remind us that it is helpful to keep in mind that emotions are largely temporary. It’s particularly … More

anxiety, asking for help, being present, building resilience, habits, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, support, thoughts

Shower Meditation

Today my foray into ‘dark night of the soul’ is on pause (woohoo) and it could just be due to … More

Appreciation, being present, breathing, feeling safe, gratitude, Intimacy, living abundantly, mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

Life Update

A new motorhome has materialised. Heard about a neighbour selling it on Tuesday by yesterday it was paid for, a … More

breathing, compassion, gratitude, living abundantly, nature walks, present moment awareness, Recovery, refuge, self compassion, self love, silence, trusting life

Opening up to and Allowing the Love in

This week I have had several powerful opportunities to receive love. I’ve watched my openness to this, and I expected … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, living abundantly, love, self care, self compassion, self love

Feeling of Infinity

The sense of it pervading and enveloping everything including me arrives each day these days. I have responses to it, … More

anxiety, being present, breathing, love, self soothing

Long Wise Quote – Matt Licata

‘ At times, the most wise, skillful, and soulful action is to establish a boundary with another. To stand up … More

Matt Licata, self care, self compassion, self soothing

Wisdom of the I Ching

A recent chance encounter with an old flame who then became a long time close friend presented itself one day … More

attachment, friends, nature walks, self abuse, self compassion, self love

Inner Dialogue

It started in 1979 when I found a Carlos Castaneda book on my dads bedside table. It said that the … More

being present, breathing, Carlos Castaneda, dzogchen, mindfulness, self compassion, self love, self soothing, worry

Adjusting to Acceptance

My surrender experiment continues here, giving up my objections, the desire to change things to suit the ego’s dictates, the … More

habits, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self soothing, thoughts

Surrender Experiment Day 11

Now firmly in the swing of surrendering when the annoyance from hearing banging and creaking upstairs appears. I notice occasionally … More

anxiety, being present, mindfulness, relaxing, self care, self soothing, surrender experiment, worry

My Surrender Experiment

I’ve been caressed and hugged by the words of Michael Singer recently. It is exactly what I need to hear … More

anxiety, attachment to preferences, building resilience, dzogchen, fear, freedom, inner peace, Michael Singer, resting in awareness, self care, self compassion, self soothing, trusting life

Having a Beginners Mind

I am experiencing a flow with my psychotherapy clients. I seem to know what to say and when and which … More

anxiety, childhood damage, fear of success, feeling safe, love, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

What a Rollercoaster

The world is changing before our eyes and not only are we witnessing changes we are also having to participate … More

anxiety, Appreciation, asking for help, beauty of nature, building resilience, gratitude, nature, self care, self compassion, self love

Free Strengths Survey from VIA

This is very empowering! After registering and answering some questions you get a list of your top strengths and a … More

Appreciation, inspiration, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success, wellbeing

Gratitude – An Unexpected Bonus

Yes cultivating a habit of gratitude makes us feel great, a whole lot less moany, way more focused on what … More

abundance, Appreciation, building resilience, business success, fear of success, feeling safe, gratitude, living abundantly, Money Issues, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, thriving

Celebrating Bad things that Haven’t Happened!

Part of reprogramming my mind towards noticing more ‘good facts’ is reminding myself of some of the adversity that isn’t … More

Appreciation, building resilience, feeling safe, mindfulness, painful times, peace, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self soothing, support, thriving, trusting life

Celebrating Ourselves

Sometimes, when encouragement from others is not available, it can be really useful and helpful just to encourage ourselves! I … More

business, inspiration, love, nature, Recovery

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