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Learning to Rest with it All

“Let go of what has passed. Let go of what may come. Let go of what is happening now. Don’t try to figure anything out. Don’t try to make anything happen. Relax, right now, and rest” Tilopa

Category: self care

Hello again Anxiety

Awoke with disturbed feelings amid a vivid dream about C. The theme was me trying to get love and him … More

anxiety, childhood damage, fear, guilt, letting go, self compassion, self soothing, shame, suffering, thoughts, worry

The land that is nowhere

And the deeper secret of the secret. The land that is nowhere, that is your true home. iChing Don’t look … More

family relationships on the spiritual path, letting go, living abundantly, old friends and family, self love, trusting life

Taking risks, trusting…

The dissolution of individual self, as that happens I am more free to be really myself. Free of fear running … More

being present, building resilience, fear, letting go, old friends and family, self compassion, trusting life

Moments of Grace

The moments I savour and appreciate. I get up at 8am each morning after a cup of tea and an … More

feeling safe, gratitude, peace, refuge, self compassion, self soothing, trusting life, wellbeing, worry

Less Afraid of Feelings

Same again. This is how the tools are learned. After noticing a slight unease inside, I went down out of … More

feeling safe, letting go, mindfulness, self care, self love, self soothing, trusting life, wellbeing

Feeling Safe

In bed as I awoke at 4am I said to myself gently I’m here for you I care about you … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, surrender experiment, trusting life

Rainy Monday

Grey and very wet morning and I’ve been cheering myself up by singing as I get dressed and make tea, … More

self care, self soothing, stress, worry

Reconnecting – List

The changes, leaps and new realisations require time and space to settle in. So I’m just having a simple little … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, dzogchen, mindfulness, nature walks, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, thoughts, trusting life

Tools for dealing with Rumination

One trigger after the next the last few days! It has been painfully uncomfortable though feel grateful to the experience … More

being present, gratitude, letting go, ruminating, self care, self compassion

Making Life a bit more Fun

Each day starts with noticing that I’m waking from sleep. Immediately some words of love and support come into my … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

Encounter with Resistance

Thrilled to be noticing how integrated my self talk has become recently. There is barely anything other than positive affirmative … More

being present, feeling safe, gratitude, habits, letting go, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self sabotage, self soothing, surrender experiment, upper limit problem

The Magic of Self Love ❤️

Each morning in the early hours when I stir from sleep I say some of the phrases from my list. … More

being present, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

Back to Love

Tired this morning, 4 hours sleep after staying up exceedingly late into the night watching series 5 of the Handmaiden’s … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, letting go, love, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life

Surrendering

It’s pouring right now, windy and dark outside. Leaves flying off the trees. Inside it’s still and warm and cosy … More

being present, building resilience, feeling safe, letting go, self compassion, self love, stillness, surrender experiment, trusting life

Imagination and Suffering

A visitation from emotional pain. Goodness gracious, what a level of suffering I went into yesterday. Succumbed to worries about … More

anxiety, fear, letting go, self compassion, self soothing, stress, worry

The Smooth and the Hard times

It was a pretty serious session with the first client in the morning, with death as a theme. Of her … More

mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life, worry

Updated Positive Self Talk list

I love you I respect you I care about you I want the best for you I appreciate you I … More

feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, inner peace, peace, relaxing, self compassion, self love, silence, trusting life

Handing over Objections

Playing with the order of positive self soothing affirmations this morning. I have been introducing this manner of of talking … More

acceptance, being present, letting go, resistance, self care, self compassion, self soothing, suffering

Love Bombs

I’ve been dropping these love bombs on my beleaguered conditioned psyche recently. Think there’s quite a lot of inner adjustments … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

You are held, you are cared for, you are loved

Out into the Sunday morning sunshine, a slow amble along the swollen river to the now rather muddy edge of … More

beauty of nature, building resilience, dzogchen, feeling safe, freedom, letting go, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, surrender experiment, trusting life

I love, I respect and I like Myself

Breakfast in the park and walk with a friend in the morning, then a deeply restful afternoon yesterday. After that … More

Appreciation, being present, building resilience, childhood damage, feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, inner peace, letting go, Michael Singer, mindfulness, peace, Recovery, refuge, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success, surrender experiment, trusting life

Thank you Body, thank you Shower…

I look down at my body standing there and I thank it for working so well. Then I thank the … More

Appreciation, being present, feeling safe, letting go, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

You are Loved, You are cherished, I’m here for You

Another long sleep and bobbing in and out of sleep from the early hours. And again I went through the … More

being present, building resilience, covid, feeling safe, love, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, stress, surrender experiment

I love you, I admire you, I thank you….

Whenever I surfaced from sleep in the early hours, I would say, “I love you Susan”, and then onto several … More

Appreciation, being present, feeling safe, gratitude, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, thanks, trusting life

Learning to Rest in Awareness

Being awake in bed and just being for a while. Not doing anything. Not picking up the iPad. No rush … More

anxiety, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, mindfulness, self compassion, self soothing, surrender experiment, thoughts, worry

Hello again Sadness and Anxiety

How unpredictable life can be ! We never know what life will present us with, or where the next challenge … More

addiction, honesty, pain, self sabotage, stress, worry

Therapy Session

Light rain bringing such wonderful smells. It was lovely to walk in the fields and woods in the rain yesterday, … More

anger, childhood damage, compassion, Recovery, self care, suffering

Navigating Feelings and Thoughts

Windy wet start out there this morning. Dog curled up happy beside me. Nearly always open and happy she is, … More

Turning Towards Feelings

Awoke with the start of some little nippy worry thoughts arising in between sleep as I surfaced. The ones that … More

anxiety, being present, fear, feeling safe, self care, self compassion, self soothing, thoughts, worry

Beautiful Morning

After session with a client yesterday I walked to the allotment with the dog through the little woods. I stayed … More

beauty of nature, being present, letting go, success, trusting life, wellbeing

Friends (Long One)

I suppose we need these times of feeling unhappily squeezed to face some things, we wouldn’t face them if we … More

childhood damage, feeling safe, letting go, old friends and family

Later

Well well well, it didn’t take much to shift that stuck energy, and I did feel pretty stuck. As I … More

acceptance, being present, business, gratitude, letting go, self care, surrender experiment, trusting life

Into and Through Suffering

Yesterday turned out to be unexpectedly social. I was glad for the company on what was an odd, out of … More

anxiety, building resilience, fear, freedom, nature, nature walks, resistance, self soothing, stress, suffering, surrender experiment, worry

Connecting with Difficult Feelings

The body is the secret. What is being felt right now in this very moment? How do I know how … More

allowing feelings, anxiety, breathing, distress, fear, feeling safe, kindness, mindulness, self care, self love, self soothing, suffering, thoughts, wellbeing, worry

Free of ‘Me’

I’m so very grateful to these directly felt experiences of how beautiful life can be. Right now everything feels perfect … More

being present, dzogchen, feeling safe, flourishing, here and now, inner peace, letting go, mindfulness, Recovery, relaxing, stillness, trusting life

A Thank You

Gratitude and appreciation had become such an integrated part of my every day attitude that I stopped having to think … More

Appreciation, flourishing, gratitude, self soothing, success, support, wellbeing

Stealing Peace

At times I feel as though I’m ‘stealing’ moments of peace. I don’t trust it fully. It’s like a passing … More

being present, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, living abundantly, love, Recovery, self care, self love, self soothing, success, worry

Trusting Safety

Another day in the life with some of my inner processes. Again written for my future self. Who I imagine … More

being present, feeling safe, freedom, letting go, love, mindfulness, non-duality, peace, refuge, self care, self soothing, stillness, surrender experiment, trusting life, wellbeing

Tibetan Dream

I have been falling asleep listening to 1000+ year old Tibetan Dzogchen texts recently, and last night with Vairotsana. These … More

building resilience, feeling safe, old friends and family, self care, self compassion

Dropping down into Feelings

A thrill of anticipation this morning as I was getting up. I know how to deal with anxiety at last … More

anxiety, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, love, self care, self compassion, self soothing

Letting go of Anxiety

By feeling it. Fully. And relaxing with it. The fear is that if we allow uncomfortable feelings to be felt, … More

acceptance, anxiety, being present, dzogchen, fear, feeling safe, love, Recovery, relaxing, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, worry

Wave of Fear

One arrived this morning. ‘Shouldn’t you be worried about something, you might be forgetting something really important?” A thought suggested. … More

anxiety, building resilience, fear, feeling safe, letting go, love, mindfulness, relaxing, self care, self compassion, self soothing, shame, wellbeing

Testing the Wings

Up super early today and sitting gratefully cosy and comfy here on this December morning. Cold and dark outside. All … More

anxiety, being present, building resilience, curiosity, fear, feeling safe, gratitude, mindfulness, peace, resistance, self compassion, stillness, worry

Short Wise Quote – Gay Hendricks

“I had been resisting reality all my life—resisting facing it, resisting accepting it, resisting feeling it. Whenever I would have … More

Appreciation, being present, fear of success, feeling safe, flourishing, freedom, inner peace, letting go, love, mindfulness, Recovery, relaxing, resistance, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success, suffering, trusting life

Thoughts Suggest what we should be Feeling

Thoughts come in continuously giving me suggestions of what I should be feeling. A thought can often be a suggestion … More

Appreciation, dzogchen, feeling safe, inner peace, letting go, love, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, refuge, relaxing, self care, self love, self soothing, stillness, suffering, thoughts, trusting life, wellbeing

Unwell yet Happy

More useful adversity. I have been a little unwell this week with a sore throat, chest infection and cough. I … More

Appreciation, being present, gratitude, here and now, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, trusting life

Surrendering Anxiety

Here we go, right on cue, after tastes of fabulous freedom recently, anxiety provoking thoughts arrive a day or two … More

feeling safe, gratitude, letting go, mindfulness, refuge, self compassion, trusting life, worry

Loving Ourselves – a reframing

We don’t have to learn how to love ourselves. We already love ourselves. All we have to do is to … More

being present, building resilience, childhood damage, flourishing, living abundantly, mindfulness, mindulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, success

Welcoming the Obstacles

Its 6am. Lying in bed newly awake and the head kicks in and starts to think it’s thoughts. I notice … More

anxiety, attachment to preferences, being present, dzogchen, fear, feeling safe, inner peace, mindfulness, present moment awareness, self soothing, thoughts, trusting life, worry

We got This!

I’m feeling optimistic that many more of us are finding the remarkably simple formula for expanding our awareness and increasing … More

anxiety, Appreciation, being present, building resilience, feeling safe, gratitude, mindfulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, trusting life

“Shouldn’t I be Doing Something Else?“

“Something more important, more urgent”. This is a voice that comes to me quite regularly. And I answer it with … More

anxiety, building resilience, feeling safe, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, refuge, resistance, self care, self compassion, self soothing, suffering, thoughts, worry

Emotions – They are Temporary

Quick one to remind us that it is helpful to keep in mind that emotions are largely temporary. It’s particularly … More

anxiety, asking for help, being present, building resilience, habits, mindfulness, mindulness, Recovery, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing, support, thoughts

Shower Meditation

Today my foray into ‘dark night of the soul’ is on pause (woohoo) and it could just be due to … More

Appreciation, being present, breathing, feeling safe, gratitude, Intimacy, living abundantly, mindfulness, self care, self compassion, self love, self soothing

Life Update

A new motorhome has materialised. Heard about a neighbour selling it on Tuesday by yesterday it was paid for, a … More

breathing, compassion, gratitude, living abundantly, nature walks, present moment awareness, Recovery, refuge, self compassion, self love, silence, trusting life

I had a Stroke!

Not even just a mini one. On Thursday morning I woke up nearly paralysed down one side…and to cut it … More

anxiety, being present, breathing, fear, gratitude, Recovery, self care, self love

Opening up to and Allowing the Love in

This week I have had several powerful opportunities to receive love. I’ve watched my openness to this, and I expected … More

Appreciation, feeling safe, flourishing, gratitude, living abundantly, love, self care, self compassion, self love

Pondering Progress and Success

What does success mean and where does it appear in my life? What do I feel about it? Recently I’ve … More

freedom, living abundantly, self care, success, trusting life

Long Wise Quote – Matt Licata

‘ At times, the most wise, skillful, and soulful action is to establish a boundary with another. To stand up … More

Matt Licata, self care, self compassion, self soothing

A few Positives to this Pandemic

Call me a ‘Pollyanna ’ but I find myself saying yes to a lot of what is happening. Of course … More

Appreciation, building resilience, mindfulness

Adjusting to Acceptance

My surrender experiment continues here, giving up my objections, the desire to change things to suit the ego’s dictates, the … More

habits, present moment awareness, self care, self compassion, self soothing, thoughts

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