Celebrating Ourselves

Sometimes, when encouragement from others is not available, it can be really useful and helpful just to encourage ourselves!

I have a few methods I use to boost my confidence and self belief when its running low.

One is to write a list of my positive qualities, or a list of achievements (no matter how small and can include overcoming difficulties), another is a list of what I feel grateful for, and another is to imagine my ideal future.

Today I am going to have a go at a summary of all of these here.

Positive Qualities

I….

want the best for others
am generous
am kind and caring
am creative and artistic
adventurous
am loving
am resilient
can empathise
am showing skill as a counsellor already
feel love easily for people
a good communicator

Achievements List

I…

brought up a child mostly on my own who seems to be thriving now as a 25 year old
have juggled money successfully during some very hard times when it has been tight
run a successful business on my own, employ people, do all the marketing and design and manage the money
bought an apartment and had it remodelled completely it to make a beautiful space
manage several projects at once
own and look after a dog and keep her happy and healthy
keep myself healthy
have learned that loving myself is the answer to suffering and am now on a journey of letting go of self hate towards self love via self compassion
have let go of people who are not good for me
am not afraid to approach people inc strangers and talk to them
am doing a 2 year course towards being a CBT therapist to give myself a less stressful future while doing more to help others
am cycling regularly around the park

Gratitude List

so glad that this client went ahead with their big job which will help me financially
that my son is happily exploring the world and is so far safe as he travels
that my dog is with the dog walker having roaring fun with other dogs
that Im healthy
I have a huge woodland park to explore right across the road
I have new clients arriving
for the opportunity do this new course and change direction if I want to later on
for my friends and family and their love and camaraderie and for being there when I need them
for my lovely hard working employees
for my warm cosy apartment and especially by oh so comfy bed

In the Future

I see

a loving respectful stable relationship with a fine intelligent man
a house with very quiet neighbours that has a garden where I can build a big pond, welcome wildlife and enjoy creating a wildlife sanctuary and where the dog can get out when she wants
so much money that I do not have to worry about not having enough to pay what I owe, so zero stress about that
a healthy lifestyle, with good food and lots of enjoyable exercise
enjoying regular travels abroad exploring other cultures
enjoying helping relieving the suffering of others through therapy
no longer feeling guilt about being successful or happy and look back with compassion and amusement on all the years I held myself back with that

I could go on with all of these but already I feel a little more ‘up’ and optimistic already 🙂