I feel a need to do this a lot recently, even though things are definitely improving.
I want to remind myself what I like about myself and also of my successes, what I am doing well and getting right in life. This boosts my optimism for the future.
So what qualities, values and strengths do I like about myself?
- I care about others
- want to help make the world a better place and reduce suffering
- Friendliness and a good communicator, not afraid to talk to strangers
- The ability to find joy in simple things like nature
- An appreciation of beauty of all kinds
- Love of music
- Ability to cope with stressful situations
- Prepared to experience new people and activities
- Able to care for and love myself more than ever
- creative and artistic
- I look after my health now
- Love to explore
- Less judgemental
- Have a lot of gratitude
- Can admit to mistakes and say sorry, have some humility
- forgive easily
So successes are
- Started a business with no money which now employs 8 people
- I can keep an organised tidy house
- I brought up a child on my own who seems to be doing well and is happy
- I have helped to repair some broken family relationships
- I can afford to buy a house this year
- Survived an abusive childhood and manage to function in society
- I have owned my part in, learned from and accepted responsibility for my ‘mistakes’.
- I have taken steps to change my life for the better and not been afraid to experience the unknown
- I survived a divorce and the end of another important relationship
- I cleared out friendships that no longer worked for me
- I am learning to have boundaries to protect myself, especially in business and in relationships
- I have learned to ask for help when I need it
- I have the courage to do what I want rather than what I feel I should do
- I earn enough money to support myself
- I succeeded in my dry January challenge and will maybe continue it into February. Giving up alcohol as a crutch is a huge achievement for me. I really do think I needed it as a little treat to get through the evening
- I found an excellent therapist and a good coach
- Have built some beautiful gardens
- I manage quite a big business on my own , keep it all legal, pay the insurance, keep 4 vehicles and a digger and dumper going, deal with emails and new enquiries, existing clients to, it’s a lot
- Have survived some difficult and nasty clients without a nervous breakdown
- I’ve learned to delegate
- I made difficult decisions for an agreeable type this year – I sacked a bad designer, I sacked my old expensive accountant and book keeper and have a better and cheaper on now, I sacked a poor performing employee
Learning to Rest with it All 